First Term Reflections : Part 2

I have realized, for some people, success means bruising others along the way. It means pushing others to support our initiatives, then folding our arms and not putting any effort when others need support. This sounds like the survival of the fittest theory. But this doesn't work in Christianity because we are counseled to not do anything for our own good.

I'm also learning people aren't always honest, for the sake of buying face. People will agree with a particular decision and then go around complaining. That's not it. This life requires us to be truthful - even if it means opposition. Personally, I'm in a space when I need to be honest with those around me. I speak when I see someone is being teared down. I cannot keep silent.

I believe WHOLEHEARTEDLY in supporting others-especially when you are stepping off a particular position. Life is not a competition. If it means supporting a leader to the point of them serving more excellently through prayer, resources and more, then so be it. At least, I want to help make someone's burden lighter. This principle also extends to my homelife. I can't watch my mom burdened or in need, when I can help.

There's no loss in affirming others when they do something good - I believe it's part of using our speech well. It can be someone looking beautiful, it can be a child assisting without you asking (like a grade 1 learner who asked if she could assist - bless her heart) and so much more. It's good to encourage others when they do good.

Praying for each other is the best and continually checking on others. Overall, let's not love others based on what we can get off them and leave them to suffer when they need us. I might reiterating this for the second time, in the same post but the selfish behaviour is so harmful and harms the selfish individual.

Overall, blessings to you. Do join me in reflecting as doing so helps us to see our shortcomings, strengths, and areas of development.

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